In human life, "connection" and "separation" seem to be two opposite concepts. We are often taught to build relationships and strengthen connections, because intimate family relationships or social connections seem to be a symbol of "success". However, it is in this continuous pursuit of "connection" that people gradually realize that excessive close connections can bring stress, anxiety, and even some degree of loss. Therefore, it is becoming increasingly important to properly maintain "space" - the practice of consciously maintaining a certain distance between people and things. The true wisdom of life may lie in how to find a subtle and appropriate balance between "connection" and "separation".

First of all, the phenomenon of "connection" in life is everywhere. With the advancement of technology, the physical distance between people is getting shorter and shorter, and the spread of information has also become extremely rapid. Through social networking and instant messaging tools, people can stay in touch with their family, friends, and colleagues anytime, anywhere. This uninterval communication method greatly facilitates people's daily life to a certain extent. Whether it is communication in personal life or collaboration in the workplace, these "connections" make people feel a closer sense of connection and security.

In the family, the relationship between parents, children, and partners becomes closer because of this connection that is online at any time. Family members no longer need to wait for specific occasions to communicate. They can contact each other via phone, video or message at any time as long as they need it. The same is true between friends, distance and time are no longer the factors that hinder friendship. Even if you have different friends, you can keep in touch through the Internet. This constant sense of connection enhances the emotional bond between each other, allowing everyone to feel the warmth of friendship and family in their busy lives.

At work, strengthening connections also greatly improves work efficiency. Team members can communicate in real time through online meetings, emails, and instant messaging tools, and handle work transactions without waiting. Especially in today's globalization, cross-time zone collaboration has become more frequent and necessary. Employees in different regions can cooperate efficiently through tools to complete complex tasks. The convenience brought by this connection greatly improves the operational efficiency of the entire society.

However, everything has two sides, and excessive "connection" also brings some hidden worries. In an era of information explosion, people face too many choices and information and often cannot focus on what is in front of them. The continuous intrusion of social media and work emails has kept people "online". The anxiety and stress that many people feel in their daily lives often stems from their inability to completely get rid of these "connections" that are always there. When the boundaries between work and life blur, many people find it difficult to really relax after get off work, because information can interrupt their rest at any time. At the same time, interactions between people seem to become more superficial. Through social media platforms, people's interactions are often formal, and real in-depth communication becomes scarce.

This excessive connection also brings a "feeling of fatigue". People are becoming more and more accustomed to using short texts and emojis to communicate, but lack face-to-face emotional interactions. As this continues, people may gradually feel alienated in interpersonal relationships. Although they are more frequently connected, they may not be more emotionally intimate.

Therefore, behind these problems, it is particularly important to properly maintain "space". Interval does not mean a complete severance of contact, nor does it mean a evasion of responsibility. Instead, it is an important way for individuals to retain space for independent thinking in a chaotic world. Moderate intervals can help people stay mentally healthy so that they won’t be overwhelmed by too much information and communication.

Another benefit of keeping spaced is that it allows people to better understand themselves. Long-term excessive contact and information interference can lead to people losing their sensitivity to their own needs. We are often busy responding to other people's expectations, busy participating in various social activities, and neglecting our own inner needs. With appropriate "spaces", people can have time and space to reflect on their lives and reexamine their goals and values. Interval is not only a physical distancing, but also a psychological adjustment, allowing people to return to their inner world and make necessary self-repair and adjustments.

In addition, intervals are also crucial to maintaining the healthy development of the relationship. Whether it is intimate or friend relationship, proper distance will help the long-term development of the relationship. Excessive intimacy and excessive dependence often lead to suffocation and oppression in one party in the relationship. The interval provides each other with a chance to breathe, and also gives both sides room to digest emotions and deal with problems. When a certain distance between people is maintained, the boundaries between each other are clearer, which can actually promote the stability and harmony of the relationship.

Of course, the most important thing in life is not to blindly pursue "space" or "connection", but to find a balance between the two. The pace of modern society is fast, and when social and information permeability make people feel tired, moderate intervals are a self-protection strategy. However, excessive isolation is not advisable, and excessive separation may lead to estrangement and alienation between people. Therefore, in personal life, we need to consciously set social rhythms, control interaction frequency, and avoid excessive disturbance to ourselves or others. The balance between work and life is equally important, and setting clear boundaries can ensure that we have enough rest and time alone outside of work.

Being alone is not about refusing to socialize, but a way to restore inner energy. Time alone allows us to reflect on the past, plan for the future, and help us better cope with challenges in life. Therefore, when enjoying the connection convenience brought by modern science and technology and social development, we must also learn to create "spaces" for ourselves in a timely manner and retain a pure land in our hearts.

To sum up, connections and spacing are not concepts that are opposite to each other, but complement each other. Excessive connections can easily lead to psychological burden and anxiety, while reasonable intervals can help people maintain inner balance. In modern society, we must learn to flexibly use these two methods and make appropriate choices in different occasions. Only in this way can we enjoy rich interpersonal relationships, maintain inner peace and soberness, and live a more fulfilling and healthy life.

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