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Issue #193: A terrible definition of “community” and simple vs. panties
By Harris Sockel
Every month, I discover a story found by a few people in the middle archive (A) and say (b) I felt what I felt but couldn't make a name.
Input: A three - part time job series By ~ Natali Mallel (MORAD) In the sense of adult. It is based on the research of psychologists. Robert Kegan At Harvard Graduate School of Education, humans have found a tendency to develop through the five -stage developmental stage.
- Step 1: impulsive mind (initial infant, adult minority)
- Step 2: Imperial Mind (adolescent, 6%of adults)
- Step 3: Socialized Mind (58%of adults)
- Step 4: Self -approval Mind (35%of adults)
- Step 5: Self -conversion spirit (1%of adults)
It is common for children to imagine the developmental stage (I am worried about the ends of two terrible people!).
I'll say it again. As an adult, we often make life as the way to unlock new skills and opportunities, and deepen our masterpiece along the way. It is different from Kegan's theory and how to fundamentally change yourself as you grow.
Step 3 is a typical socialized adult. You identify your role, relationship and community. In step 4, you question the rules and the community. As you go up to step 5, you start to accept or enjoy your identity and the unique blur of life itself . You can imagine all the way you can take out of yourself, everyone who will be you to be. Realization includes:
- There is no black or white. (I am not smart. 'I'm smart in some situations and stupid in other situations. "))
- You can ask both authority and your own questions.
- You accept the paradox.
When I first read about “self -transformation”, it felt scary to me. Too much! It's so unstable! But Kegan thinks it as a radical self -awareness.
Practical tips for approaching the Stage 5-DOM : If you have a conflict about something (for example, career motion), sitting in a chair and built a chair for all other versions of the version. you. Sit in each chair and to be afraid, angry or excited. It may seem foolish, but it will help you train your brain to do the same thing internally.
One more story: in the community
All startups are “community ” in the year of the Lord in 2024. Patrion. Substack. Even OpenAI hires a community team . The word “community” feels buzzword for me. But after all the buzzwords, it's an important idea.
Fabian Portmüller, the co -founder of The Together Institute, expresses better than what I can do. The community has a definition problem . Excessively used. Vague. Even the preliminary definition spreads from the “people who live in the same place” to the “people who share common goals.” Portmüller suggests a new and simple definition.
The brand or influenza says, “When you tell you to join the community, they probably lie unless all followers take care of each other and feel like cohesive units.
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