You think he was simply "tired" when he was slimming his phone on the sofa, but in fact he might be silent in his mind: "What does housework have to do with me? I am a big hero in the family. The task of saving the world has been completed. What is the purpose of mopping a lot?" So, if you want to change him from "Lying Flat King" to "Housework Expert", you have to have some strategy and you can't force it, otherwise you will find that you have no share of the housework and you are still angry. Next, I will give you tips on how to use humor and wisdom to "scam" your husband into a trap of housework, and make him willing to dance.

First of all, we must understand a truth: men are not born to hate housework, they just hate being "ordered" to do housework. If you say with a stern face, "You wash the dishes for me!" He will probably reply to you, "I just got off work and was as tired as a dog. Can you let me take a breath?" Then this conversation turned into a emotional drama of "You don't love me anymore" and "You don't love me". In the end, the housework was not done, and the two of them had a cold war for three days. So, tone is very important. Don't order, try to act spoiled. For example, you can twist your waist and say, "Honey, my hands are sore today. If you can wash the bowl, how about I pinch your shoulders for you tonight?" The key to this trick is the "trading sense", which makes him feel like he has made a profit - washing a bowl for massage, how much is it! As for whether you will really pinch your shoulders, it depends on your mood. The bowl has been washed anyway.

For example, when mopping the floor, you can pretend to say inadvertently: "Oh, the floor is so dirty that I feel embarrassed to invite my friends to play. They thought I was married to a sloppy guy." This sentence is self-deprecating on the surface, but in fact it secretly stimulates his self-esteem. Which man would like to be labeled as "sloppy"? Especially, he also wants to maintain the image of a "perfect husband" in front of his friends. The next second, you may see him picking up the mop silently, muttering: "I'm not a sloppy, I'm for family honor!" You are just laughing at the side and praise him, "Husband, you're so handsome in mopping the floor, like a knight saving the castle!" Men all like to listen to this kind of words, and they make him feel gloomy. Next time they mop the floor, he may even volunteer.

There is another trick called "pretend to be incompetent". Don't underestimate this trick, it's very effective. For example, when washing clothes, you can deliberately throw his white shirt and red socks into the washing machine, and then say innocently: "Oh, I seem to have messed up. Why has your shirt become pink? Husband, why do you teach me, I'm so stupid." When he saw that his beloved shirt had become a "pink leopard", he would definitely not be able to sit still, so he immediately took over the power of washing clothes. Every time he washes clothes, he will take the initiative to say, "I'll do it, don't dye my clothes into a rainbow again." As for you, you nodded and said "accept humbly", and then happily watch the show, and you don't have to worry about clothes anymore.

Speaking of this, I have to remind you not to mess up the housework to the point where it is uncontrollable, otherwise he may feel that "it is better to hire an hourly worker than to let you do it." Therefore, pretending to be incompetent must be a certain degree and acting skills must be online. For example, when cooking, you can pretend that you can't cut vegetables, take a potato and grind it there for a long time, and then shout, "Husband, I'm afraid I'll cut it for you, can you help me cut it?" If he feels sorry for you, he will definitely come and take over. When he finishes cutting, you will say sweetly: "The potatoes you cut are so beautiful, more professional than those in the restaurant!" When he heard this, he felt happy. Next time he cooked, he might ask you directly: "What do you want to eat today, I'll do it." Isn't this perfect?

Of course, acting alone is not enough, so I have to give him some "positive feedback". When men do housework, what they fear most is that they are thankless to their efforts. If you say with a cold face, "It's okay to wash it, work harder next time." He probably rolled his eyes in his heart: "I'm working so hard and you're not satisfied, so what else can I do?" So, you have to learn to praise exaggeratedly. For example, if he washes a bowl, you have to shout as if you discover a new world: "Wow, husband, you wash your bowl too clean, you can use it as a mirror! I'm really making a fortune when I marry you!" He felt so proud that he might wash the dishes twice next time, just to hear you praise you again.

There is another trick called "gamified housework". As a man, he is born to love playing games. If you turn housework into a game, he may have been baited. For example, you can say, "Honey, how about we compare who folds clothes faster? The loser has to tell jokes to the winners at night!" As soon as he heard this, his competitive spirit became aroused and immediately jumped up to compete with you. After folding the clothes, he might still say unsatisfiedly: "What's the comparison in the next game? Do you wash the dishes?" You took the opportunity to nod: "Okay, I definitely won't beat you when washing the dishes!" As a result, he washed the dishes, you did nothing, and you heard a lot of jokes in vain. The advantage of this gamification is that he doesn't feel like he is "working", but instead thinks he's having a game with you.

When it comes to playing, don’t forget the “reward mechanism”. Men are no less sensitive to rewards than puppies who hear the bell of meals. You can set a small goal, such as: "Husband, you can share the housework three times this week, and I will treat you to a big meal on the weekend!" Or more directly: "You clean up the kitchen tonight, and I will accompany you to watch that game!" When he heard that there was reward, his motivation immediately came. The key is that the reward must be fulfilled, otherwise he might give up next time: "Last time you said you invited me to a big meal, but I ate instant noodles. You fooled me again this time?" So, integrity is very important. Even if you just play a game with him, you have to do it.

Of course, some husbands are naturally lazy and act coquettish and rewards are useless, so they have to use the "trump card" - the comparison method. You can pretend to say inadvertently: "Xiao Li next door helped his wife wash clothes for a day yesterday. His wife showed off her in the circle of friends and said she had married a treasure." As soon as this was said, if he was a little competitive, he would definitely not be convinced: "Xiao Li can do it, so can I do it!" Then you just wait and see how he "proves himself". As for men, sometimes it’s that simple, it’s effective when you’re excited.

There is another situation where he has to be careful of being lazy and sloppy. For example, he might say, "I mopped the floor, you can see how clean it is!" As a result, when you look, the corners are covered with dust. Don't criticize directly at this time, try humorously to resolve it: "Honey, your mopping technique is an abstract art, and you hide the dust very artistically!" When he heard it, he would probably laugh awkwardly, and then drag it again honestly. If he criticizes too hard, he may just give up: "You do it yourself, I can't do it well!" So, humor is a lubricant, which not only points out problems but does not hurt feelings.

Speaking of relationships, the biggest hidden danger of uneven housework is quarrel. You are sweating profusely. He is there to watch short videos, and anyone else will be fucked. Therefore, communication must be laid in advance. You can find a relaxing opportunity, such as when you are taking a walk after dinner, you half-jokingly say, "Honey, I found that if we can do housework together, we will definitely double our efficiency and have more time to get tired of it. Do you think?" This not only pointed out the question, but also gave him sweetness. He thought, "Well, it seems to make sense." Next time you call him for help, he won't feel abrupt.

Of course, some husbands are particularly good at "pretending to be deaf and dumb". If you call him for help, they either say "hmm" and leave nothing, or say directly: "I'm busy!" Don't rush to turn against each other at this time, try "retreat to advance". For example, you can say, "Okay, husband, you are busy with big things, just do this little job by yourself." This is a compromise on the surface, but in fact it is a trap for him. When a man hears "big things" and "small work", his self-esteem arises: "Who said this is a small work? I'll do it!" Then you watch him go to work obediently, and you feel secretly happy: Isn't this just a bait?

There is another trick called "sharing his work". It sounds a bit counterintuitive, but it works great. For example, he is usually responsible for repairing light bulbs and removing garbage. You can take the initiative to say, "Husband, I'll take down the garbage today. How about you help me wipe the table?" When he saw that you had done "his work", he was embarrassed to do nothing, and he would probably take on the task of wiping the table. This "change worker" method can make him feel fair and gradually become accustomed to sharing the burden.

Speaking of habits, the biggest goal of letting your husband do housework is to make him feel that this is "daily" rather than "help". You have to strengthen this concept from time to time. For example, after washing dishes, you can say, "Our cooperation is simply the golden partner of the housework!" When he heard this, he subconsciously felt that he was a part of the housework and would not be so resistant to doing it next time.

Of course, housework varies from person to person. Some husbands are born diligent, and if you give a hint, they can clean up their homes like a model room; some husbands are too lazy to be like a stone, and you have to use eighteen martial arts to make them move. Therefore, adjust the tricks flexibly and don’t fight to the death. For example, if he is particularly fond of face, you should use the "contrast method" more; if he is particularly soft but not hard, you should act more coquettish. In short, you have to understand his personality before you can prescribe the right medicine.

Finally, housework is a matter of two people. You can't expect him to become a "household chore superman" all at once, but you can't make yourself tired into a "household chore chore woman". So, take your time and use some humor and wisdom to pull him into this "pit". When he gets used to it, you will find that the home is not only clean, but the relationship is also sweeter. After all, a husband who is willing to wash dishes and a wife who is willing to praise him is a perfect match!