You may think that he is simply "tired" while he is slumped on the sofa, scrolling through his phone. In fact, he may be thinking silently in his mind: "What does housework have to do with me? I am the hero of the family. I have completed the task of saving the world, so mopping the floor is nothing." Therefore, if you want to turn him from a "laying king" to a "housework expert", you must have some strategies and cannot force it, otherwise you will find that the housework is not shared, and you will be a lot more angry. Next, I will give you some tips and teach you how to use humor and wisdom to "cheat" your husband into the trap of housework, and make him dance willingly.

First of all, we need to understand a truth: men don’t naturally hate housework, they just hate being “ordered” to do housework. If you say with a straight face: "You washed the dishes for me!" he will probably reply to you: "I just got off work and I am as tired as a dog. Can you let me take a breather?" Then the conversation turned into an emotional drama of "you don't love me anymore" and "you don't love me". In the end, the housework was not completed, and the two of them were in a cold war for three days. Therefore, tone is important. Don't order, try acting coquettishly. For example, you can twist your waist and say: "Husband, my hands are sore today. If you can wash the dishes, how about I give you a shoulder massage tonight?" The key to this trick is the "sense of transaction", which makes him feel that he has made a profit - washing the dishes in exchange for a massage, what a deal! As for whether you will really squeeze your shoulders, it depends on your mood. Anyway, the dishes have been washed.

For another example, when it comes to mopping the floor, you can pretend to say casually: "Oh, the floor is so dirty that I'm embarrassed to invite my friends over to play. They thought I married a sloppy guy." On the surface, this is self-deprecating, but in fact, it secretly stimulates his self-esteem. What man wants to be labeled "sloppy"? Especially since he wants to maintain the image of the "perfect husband" in front of his friends. The next second, you may see him pick up the mop silently, muttering: "I'm not a sloppy guy, I'm doing this for family honor!" You, snickering next to you, compliment by the way: "Honey, you are so handsome mopping the floor, like a knight saving the castle!" Men love to hear this kind of words, and the praise makes him feel happy, and he may even take the initiative to mop the floor next time.

There is another trick called "pretend to be incompetent". Don't underestimate this trick, it's very effective. For example, when washing clothes, you can deliberately throw his white shirt and red socks into the washing machine, and then say innocently: "Oh, I seem to have screwed up. Why did your shirt turn pink? Husband, why don't you teach me, I'm so stupid." When he saw that his beloved shirt had become a "Pink Panther", he definitely couldn't sit still, and immediately took over the laundry. Every time he washes clothes from now on, he will take the initiative to say: "I'll do it, don't dye my clothes into rainbows again." As for you, just nod to express "accept humbly", and then go to the theater happily, and you don't have to worry about clothes anymore.

Having said that, I have to remind you not to really mess up the housework to the point of getting out of hand, otherwise he may feel that "instead of letting you do it, it is better to hire an hourly worker." Therefore, when pretending to be incompetent, you must have a certain degree of control and your acting skills must be online. For example, when cooking, you can pretend you don't know how to cut vegetables, grind a potato there for a long time, and then shout: "Husband, I'm afraid of cutting it on my hands, can you cut it for me?" If he feels sorry for you, he will definitely come over and take over. After he finishes cutting, you say sweetly: "The potatoes you cut are really beautiful, more professional than those in the restaurant!" When he hears this, he feels happy. Next time he cooks, he may ask you directly: "What do you want to eat today? I'll make it." Isn't this perfect?

Of course, acting coquettishly and acting alone is not enough, you have to give him some "positive feedback." What men fear most when doing housework is that they will not be thankless for their efforts. If you say with a cold face: "The washing is okay, try harder next time." He will probably roll his eyes in his heart: "I have worked so hard and you are not satisfied, so what else should I do?" Therefore, you have to learn to praise exaggeratedly. For example, when he washes a bowl, you have to shout as if you have discovered a new world: "Wow, hubby, you washed the bowl so cleanly that it can be used as a mirror! I made a lot of money by marrying you!" Hearing this, he feels proud in his heart. Next time he washes the dishes, he may wash the dishes twice more, just to hear your praise again.

There is another trick called “gamifying housework”. Men are naturally fond of playing games. If you turn housework into a game, he may take the bait. For example, you can say: "Husband, how about we compete with each other to see who can fold laundry faster? The loser has to tell a joke to the winner at night!" When he hears this, his competitive spirit will rise, and he will immediately jump up to compete with you. After folding the clothes, he might still say with unfinished content: "What's the next game? Do you want to wash the dishes?" You took the opportunity to nod: "Okay, I definitely can't beat you in washing the dishes!" As a result, he washed the dishes and you did nothing, and you listened to a lot of jokes in vain. The advantage of this kind of gamification is that he doesn't feel that he is "working" at all, but instead feels that he is playing a game with you.

Speaking of playing, don’t forget the “reward system”. Men are as sensitive to rewards as a puppy is to hearing the dinner bell. You can set a small goal, such as: "Husband, if you help me share the housework three times this week, I will treat you to a big dinner on the weekend!" Or more directly: "You clean up the kitchen tonight, and I will accompany you to watch the football game!" Once he hears that there is a reward, his motivation will rise immediately. The key is that the reward must be fulfilled, otherwise he may give up the idea next time: "Last time you said you would treat me to a big dinner, but I ended up eating instant noodles, and you lied to me again this time?" Therefore, integrity is very important, even if you just play a game with him, you must keep your word.

Of course, some husbands are naturally lazy, and if coquettishness or rewards don't work, then they have to use the " trump card " - the contrast method. You can pretend to say casually: "Little Li next door helped his wife wash clothes all day yesterday. His wife showed off in the circle of friends, saying that she married a baby." Once you say this, if he is still a little competitive, he will definitely not be convinced: "If Xiao Li can do it, I can do it too!" Then you wait to see how he "proves himself." Men, sometimes it's just that simple, and it works out of nowhere.

There is another situation where you have to guard against him being lazy and slipping. For example, he might say: "I mopped the floor, look how clean it is!" But when you look at it, it's all dusty. Don't criticize directly at this time, try to resolve it with humor: "Husband, your mopping technique is abstract, you hide the dust very artistically!" When he heard this, he would probably laugh twice in embarrassment, and then mop it again honestly. If he criticizes too harshly, he may simply give up: "You can do it yourself, I can't do it well!" Therefore, humor is a lubricant that points out problems without hurting feelings.

Speaking of relationships, in fact the biggest hidden danger of uneven housework is quarrels. You're so busy that you're sweating profusely, and he's posting short videos there, and anyone else would be blown away. Therefore, communication must be prepared in advance. You can find a relaxing moment, such as when you are taking a walk after dinner, and say half-jokingly: "Husband, I found that if we can do housework together, our efficiency will definitely double, and we can spend more time together, don't you think?" This not only hit the topic, but also gave him a sweet taste. He thought about it: "Well, it seems to make sense." Next time you ask him to help, he won't feel abrupt.

Of course, some husbands are particularly good at "pretending to be deaf and dumb". If you ask him to help, he will either say "um" without saying anything, or directly say: "I'm busy!" Don't rush to fall out at this time, try "retreating to advance." For example, you can say: "Okay, hubby, you are busy with big things, I can do this little work myself." This may appear to be a compromise, but in fact it is a trap for him. When a man hears "big things" and "small jobs," his self-esteem rises: "Who said this is a small job? I'll do it!" Then you watch him go to work obediently, and feel secretly happy: Isn't this just a bait?

There is another trick called "share his work". It sounds counter-intuitive, but it works well. For example, if he is usually responsible for fixing light bulbs and taking out the trash, you can take the initiative and say: "Husband, I will take out the trash today, how about you help me wipe the table?" When he sees that you have done "his job", he will be too embarrassed to do anything, and 80% of the time he will take over the task of wiping the table. This kind of "work-for-work" approach can make him feel fair, and he will gradually get used to sharing the burden.

Speaking of habits, in fact, the biggest goal of letting your husband do housework is to make him feel that it is "daily" rather than "help". You have to reinforce this concept from time to time. For example, after he has washed the dishes, you can say: "We work together, we are a golden partner in the world of housework!" When he hears this, he subconsciously feels that he is a part of the housework, and he will not be so resistant to doing it next time.

Of course, chores vary from person to person. Some husbands are naturally hard-working, and with just a little hint from you, they can make the house look like a model house; some husbands are as lazy as a stone, and you have to use all kinds of skills to make them move. Therefore, the tricks must be adjusted flexibly, and don't stick to one type. For example, if he is very face-loving, you should use the "contrast method" more often; if he is very fond of the soft and not the hard, you should be more coquettish. In short, you have to understand his character in order to prescribe the right medicine.

Finally, housework is ultimately a matter between two people. You can't expect him to become a "housework superman" all of a sudden, but you can't let yourself become a "housework resentment wife" either. So, take your time, use a little humor and wisdom to draw him into this "pit". When he gets used to it, you will find that not only is your home cleaner, your relationship will also be sweeter. After all, a husband who is willing to wash the dishes and a wife who is willing to praise him are a perfect match!