Today I want to tell you that the more children learn, the better. Especially the things that are in the interest class and the cram school are simply the double killer of parents’ wallets and children’s childhood! I will try to write funny and teach you how to determine whether it is worth it, and avoid falling into the trap of "the more, the better".

First of all, when it comes to interest classes, it is a truly "compulsory course" for modern parents. Don't you believe it? When I go to any shopping mall to watch the weekend, the streets are all the way to drag the children to run the interest classes, and they all seem to participate in the Olympic sprint. Violin, ballet, painting, taekwondo, piano, programming... There are so many names that you may suspect that you lived in a child. I have a friend who is five years old and has enrolled in seven interest classes, which is known as "comprehensive development". What's the result? The child kept shouting "Mommy, I don't want to learn", while my friend said, "You don't learn something, you can compete with others in the future?" Finally, the child and his mother "competed" to go to the psychologist, which was really "comprehensive development" - even their spirits collapsed.

The trap of interest classes is that it gives parents an illusion: as long as I let children learn more, they will become genius. Hello, wake up, the genius is not piled up with money! Some interest classes need to be packaged with golden light, saying "develop potential" and "enhance competitiveness", but in fact, a class of children sits there, a teacher teaches half a bucket of water, and the children are confused about their learning. I tried to accompany my children to the class, the so-called "creative painting class", but the teacher asked you to have a piece of paper with several crayons, and say "freely". I thought to myself, I can go back to the house and have fun with the children. Is it going to take five hundred mosquitoes a month? Once, I signed up for a "scientific experimental class" and thought there would be some high-tech things. As a result, I taught the children to use combing and vinegar to make a "volcanic eruption". Hello, I searched for tutorials on YouTube for free, I want to give you money to teach you?

The cram school is even more outrageous. In the past, when we studied, tutoring was a life-saving straw, and we should make up for the poor grades first. But what about home? Tutoring becomes a "vaccine", as if you don't make up for it, you will "learn badly". I have a neighbor, who is a waiter, and his grades are already in the top three of the class, but I have to make up for four subjects: Chinese, English, mathematics and common sense. I asked him, "Do you need to make up for so many points?" He replied, "I'm afraid he can't follow!" Can't follow? Please, he is already running in front. Do you want him to take the bazooka forward? As a result, the child made up until nine o'clock every day, and returned to the house and his eyes were as dark as a national treasure. On the second day, he went to school and yawned. These parents do not help children learn something, but help them learn something like "hidden beast fight"!

The core issue of tutoring myths is, and parents think that "learning more = winning at the starting line." But have you ever thought that the starting line of a child is not your trunk full, but his curiosity and happiness? Once I told my child, "Do you want to learn more math?" He answered very seriously, "Mom, I would rather learn to tell stories with the dog." I laughed so hard, thinking that it might be more meaningful than him to learn ten-order equations. There are so many cram schools that children do not learn knowledge, but learn some things to "restrain". If you say that, what are the uses of these "defeats" in the future? Unless you want him to grow up and be an OT madman, it is a waste of time.

So, parents can judge whether it is worth it? Actually, it’s so simple, but many people are reluctant to do it – observe your children! Are they really interested in that? Once I asked my child, "Do you want to learn to dance?" He said, "I want to! But I want to dance the zombie dance in "Minecraft". "I laughed so hard that I vomited blood, but at least I know that he was interested in dancing, but he was only a thousand miles away from the ballet I imagined. As a result, I danced a zombie dance with him in the house for half an hour. He was so happy that he flew up, and I saved hundreds of mosquito interest class fees. The key point is that you have to see him, but you don’t force him to learn if you think “it seems very useful”.

The second trick is your good friend. Don’t sign a one-year contract as soon as you hear the “limited time offer” and try out the authenticity of the prophet! I tried to take the children to a "robot programming class" and the propaganda message "cultivate scientific and technological talents from childhood". As a result, I found that the so-called programming is to build LEGO and install a motor. The teacher didn't even know how to say the word "c" in "code". I told the child, "It's enough to build a house in the house, do you need money?" He nodded and agreed, "It's better to use this money to buy LEGO." Look, the details understand the truth, but don't parents understand?

The third trick is to ask yourself: I am a department for my children to learn, and I am a department for my own face? Have you ever tried to blow water from a fan and say, "Oh, I have learned three instruments, and I have a karate black belt"? If so, congratulations, you may fall into the "face trap". I have a friend who has been studying piano for two years, but he plays "Two Tigers" every time he performs. I asked him, "Don't you learn some new songs?" He said, "No, the teacher said that he is not level enough." He has not level enough for two years? You might as well let him play the electronic piano in the house! I don’t mean learning musical instruments, but if you sign up for a class, just to tell someone that “my child has something to learn”, it’s better to take it to buy a trophy and carve it on the “best parent” calculation.

The fourth move is to calculate the cost of time and money. The interest class and the cram school do not have free lunch, and there are thousands of mosquitoes a month, so I have to add the pick-up time and mental loss of children. I have a friend who said, "I have signed up for the 4,000 mosquito class in a month, but his grades are similar to those before." I said to him, "Four thousand mosquitoes! You might as well take him on a trip with him. At least he is happy and has memories." He thought about it, and half of the class was cancelled in the second month, and the child immediately turned into a pistachio. You said, it’s worth it? It’s not about how much the children have learned, but about whether they are happy or not.

Finally, I will teach you a trick: Play with children, which is better than ten interest classes! I and my kids tried to make cakes in the house, but they went to the kitchen and looked like a battlefield. But they learned to measure ingredients and stir them. "It would be as sweet as spitting out too much sugar." These textbooks cannot be taught in the same interest class. Once, I was playing waves with him in the park, and he asked, "Mom, will you get so far away when you click the waves?" I immediately told him some physics knowledge. After hearing this, he said, "So it's so fun!" Look, knowledge is not necessarily first in the classroom, and life is the best teacher.

I have talked so much, but I actually want to say that the more children learn, the better. Interest class and cram school are like some "sweetness". If you eat too much, you will not only lose nutrition, but also will ruin the children's appetite. As a parent, he doesn’t force him to learn everything. The most important thing is that he is happy and healthy. You said, how about it? If you want to enroll in a class next time, why not ask the child first: "Do you want to learn?" If he answers, "I want to learn something to fight with monsters", you know that he may just want to play with you more. Take back the time and money and fight monsters with him. At least you and him will laugh more.