Traditional culture has a long history, with profound and rich connotations. The sayings that are passed down through generations may be colloquial, but their meanings are profound, revealing the wisdom, intelligence, and humor of ancient people. Among them is a proverb: "Women bow their heads, men straighten their chests, a wealthy life for half a peaceful life," why did the ancients use such a metaphor? Today, let's explore the meaning of this saying.
1. What does it mean for women to bow their heads?
In the eyes of the ancient people, women speaking would often be cautious and careful. If they raised their heads too much during communication, it would make others feel self-conscious. On the contrary, if they frequently nodded and smiled, it would create a friendly, dignified, and gentle impression. Especially, when someone is speaking, a woman with such demeanor would make everyone feel that she listens attentively and deserves respect. In the past, during communication, women would often slightly bow their heads to show respect, modesty, and discretion. This type of woman was considered educated, virtuous, and would definitely become a good wife in the future. Additionally, women who knew how to bow their heads would receive the respect of men living a good life. Therefore, the ancients said that a woman like this would have a peaceful and prosperous life, as women are the feng shui of the family, and a gentle woman is like water, which symbolizes wealth. Hence, a family with a gentle wife will prosper. Nowadays, women who are talented, accomplished, internally rich, knowledgeable, and humble know when to "bow their heads" appropriately. This "bowing of the head" is not a sign of timidity or weakness, but a demonstration of humility and deference.
2. What does it mean for men to straighten their chests?
Men straightening their chests signifies a sense of responsibility. Compared to a man bowing his head, a man who holds his head high can demonstrate confidence, making others feel proud and decisive, and can also give the impression of being trustworthy. In the past, to assess whether a man was worthy of entrusting his entire life, it was also important to consider whether he had the responsibility to bear the family's burdens. A man who straightened his chest would also give the impression of integrity, being able to stand up courageously in the face of difficulties. Such a man could start a business, achieve success, and support and protect his family.
3. A wealthy life for half a peaceful life
Whether ancient or modern, to measure whether a person is happy, one only needs to look at their life's journey. Those who, in the first half of their lives, worked diligently and responsibly, would naturally have a career and pass it on to the next generation, enjoying the pleasures of old age and a peaceful life, as light as a cloud. Of course, society has changed a lot now, so the standards have also changed. Just like women in the workplace, sometimes, if they are not strong, they may suffer setbacks and find it difficult to advance. Nevertheless, the life experiences and wisdom of the ancients are worth learning from.
Great demeanor determines great achievements. From ancient times to the present, all those who have achieved great things have had great demeanor. Demeanor is a pinnacle of knowledge. With a broad range of knowledge, continuous learning will eventually lead us to success. The higher we stand, the farther we can see.
What is considered great demeanor?
Mencius said: "In the vast expanse of the world, standing in the position of the world, implementing the great way of the world, if successful, help the people; if not, implement the way by oneself. Not swayed by wealth, not tempted by poverty, not subdued by power, that is the great man." The above statement means: Actions should be straightforward, calm, and clear. When successful, help people all over the world; when in adversity, improve oneself. Not swayed by wealth, when wealthy, do not be arrogant and extravagant, when poor, do not change one's integrity. When threatened by power, do not yield, do not change one's principles. That is a truly great person. The sky is vast, embracing the sea and the sky. The earth is vast, nurturing all living beings. The sea is vast, accommodating countless rivers and streams. A person with great demeanor encompasses all of these.
A person with great demeanor treats others with tolerance and kindness
The Book of Thai Can Dam states: "To yield to others is noble, to step back is the foundation for progress. Tolerance towards others is a blessing, benefiting others is the foundation of benefit for oneself." A person with great demeanor has a broad and generous heart, is open-minded and generous in dealing with others, not calculating for personal gain; it is better to yield a little than to lose harmony. From this, they build a great cause, accumulate great blessings and rewards for themselves, and their path in life becomes wider and wider. A person with great demeanor has a generous heart, always considering others, creating a great situation, and accumulating great blessings. It is necessary to nurture one's own great demeanor. Great demeanor is not a personality trait; it is a kind of charisma. Great demeanor is the essence of each person, the external manifestation of internal qualities, the invisible strength emanating from a person's nature. It is not innate but must be cultivated and accumulated gradually in daily life, a form of human understanding in dealing with others, naturally revealed, not something that can be created at will.
A person with great demeanor communicates politely, behaves gently, has a graceful attitude, is not hasty, lazy, or procrastinating, and is sincere when there is work to be done. They view issues from a higher perspective, making others feel respected. They are like an interesting book that always captivates the reader, fascinating from all aspects, and once picked up, one does not want to stop reading, finding it more and more interesting. Great demeanor is a simple character, not concerned with profit, fame, the heart is always pure, a kind of talent that is always attached to oneself, cannot be taken away by anyone, when revealed, will always be praised and admired by others, hiding it helps oneself remain at ease.
A person with great demeanor smiles in the face of adversity
A person with great demeanor has a free and unburdened character, not immersed in worldly gains, the heart is unattached. This is also the realm of Tran Mi Cong in "The Little Book of Misery": "Whether favored or humiliated, do not fear, watching flowers fall and bloom in front of the doorstep; Going or staying, do not pay attention, watching the clouds in the sky gather and disperse." In life, everyone must go through many hardships and bitterness, and in times of hardship and rain, one needs to open their heart, smile, and say: "Wear a wet coat in the rain." Only those who, in times of hardship, can maintain a free and unburdened demeanor can have a broad and high life. A literary person once said: "When happy, smile, and also learn to smile in difficult times." A person with great demeanor has a broad heart, will never turn back to seek the golden flowers of the past, and will happily move forward in pursuit of the sparkling stars of tomorrow. Everything should be faced with equanimity, living calmly, then happiness will always be present.
A person with great demeanor does not compete or contend
Lao Tzu wrote in the Tao Te Ching: "The way of the saintly person is to act without contention." A person with great demeanor lives a genuine life, endures hardship without complaint, faces fame and gain without competing or contending. Therefore, it is said: "Because they do not compete, no one in the world can compete with them." Those who achieve great things do not argue. Therefore, to build a great career, one must first nurture great demeanor.