All of these qualities, although undeniable, if they are pushed to the extreme, becoming a necessary condition of a man, even to the point of becoming the standard by which a person is judged, then perhaps that is a bit sad. The nature of life is myriad and ever-changing. If we just accept and adapt to the world around us without missing out on the fun of living, then a strong man's perspective has certain moments of discovery.
1. System:
First, let's review the concepts surrounding the male classification system.
"Alpha" is a term belonging to biology, referring to males who lead physically and mentally, they often dominate and enjoy privileges compared to lower class males. For example, they often have priority in food sharing and have advantages in mating. However, until now, there has been no specific evidence to prove the existence of a pure alil in human society. The "Alpha" image is often just an adaptation of masculinity or anti-masculinity, and does not reflect reality. For example, Yujiro Hanma in the Baki series is often considered just entertainment or used to represent perfect masculine characteristics.
"Beta" is a term that refers to males who are weaker than "Alpha", so they often suffer domination and loss of rights in human society. People identified as "Beta" are often underestimated and are associated with traits such as weakness, low self-esteem, physical or intellectual weakness, or low social status. However, in terms of accuracy, this system is not entirely accurate, because "Beta" is second only to "Alpha" and worse than "Omega". This shows a cultural distortion, causing expectations of men to be divided in two and only one of two binaries, reinforcing the distinction between winners and losers.
To be sure, they are opposed to movements for gender equality and women's rights. They consider such movements as redundant, rebellious and stupid, arising from the tensions of the manosphere, creating another problem, that of the "incel" group (short for involuntarily celebrated, i.e. involuntarily celibate), which refers to men who cannot participate in romantic relationships, perhaps due to low self-esteem, or they blame women for causing that pain for them, thereby creating hatred towards women. In short, under the concepts of misogyny and misanthropy, society in general evaluates them as failures, and in fact there have been many violent incidents from people claiming to be incels, such as the case of Alex Minon deliberately driving a Van into a busy neighborhood in Toronto, killing 11 people and injuring 16 others.
2. Community:
Besides, in the manosphere community there is also the concept of "Beta bux", which refers to men who are considered beta, spending money on women in the hope of finding romantic and sexual relationships. In contrast to "Alpha", there is no need to spend money on women and still be able to have sex with them. The term assumes a female sexual strategy whereby they prefer sex with Alpha but seek out Beta, primarily for the purpose of financially exploiting the relationship.
Competition is inevitable, and in a relationship, there will be winners and losers, although it may not be easy to identify. Obsessions with money combine with people's identities, creating fetish and fantasy relationships, such as the caro lady, the rich Sugar Daddy and the Sugar baby.
However, the extremely strong negative effect of the manosphere has created fierce competitive pressure, not only in society but also in the male community. Such movements often despise and oppose gender equality and feminist movements, viewing them as redundant and foolish. However, the consequence of this anxiety and stress from the manosphere is the development of another problem, that of the "incel" group (short for involuntary celibates). This refers to men who are unable to engage in romantic relationships due to low self-esteem or lack of self-control, and often blame women for their pain. In short, in the light of the concept of "misogyny" and "misanthropy", society in general and men in particular have developed fierce competitive pressure where everyone must strive to be the winner to control morality, reputation and relationships.
However, the problem becomes more serious when we apply it to real life in Vietnam. According to research by the Institute of Social Development (ISDS), Vietnamese men are under tremendous pressure regarding family responsibilities, they define their image by having to earn a lot of money, become capable leaders and have high sexual ability to support their wives and children. This raises big questions about whether a man can meet these requirements.
In general, when referring to "Alpha", sources often just list a series of virtues such as strength, confidence, courage, intelligence, in a simple context and set a relatively reasonable standard. However, the real problem arises when we apply it in practice. It is important to consider not only appearance but also external factors, such as living conditions, education, social environment, and opportunities for self-expression. These factors also determine a man's development and success, not just superficial characteristics. At the same time, it is necessary to look at the influencing factors in a multidimensional way and not reduce their role in determining who is "Alpha".
3. Personality:
In addition, men are often placed in unreasonable frames, such as cold, rude, or evil personalities. This mainly comes from not knowing how to express masculinity correctly, leading to confusion between the concept of a real man and role models such as "Bad Boys", "Fu boys", "violent boys", "pretentious boys", "patriarchal boys", "pretentious boys", "teaching boys", "flaunting boys", and many other types. This desire for expression and recognition creates invisible pressure, whether positive or negative, that can make men feel strongly haunted or even gradually degrade without realizing it.
Southwest Mystery University's study of 200 men and women showed that women are just as likely as men to get angry and act out in anger. The only difference is that women are often better at controlling anger than men, which stems from the different brain mechanisms between the sexes. Other research by Robben and Brer from the University of Pennsylvania School of Medicine also showed that the brain area responsible for angry emotional responses in men and women had similar arousal, while the brain area responsible for anger control in women was larger. This explains why women often control their anger better than men.
However, those factors are never enough, because there are still many other factors that affect each person's constitution, such as social concepts of male power and masculinity, education, and psychological status. On the other hand, higher testosterone levels in men cannot be blamed, as each man's response to testosterone is very different. Some may be aggressive, while others may appear kind or have a temper. This is only a small part of the biological mechanism and is not a permanent expression or level of control of men, because in addition to instinct, humans are still rational, especially in situations such as martial arts, when having to weigh between aggression and reason to analyze and use techniques effectively and stay away from the opponent's traps.
Sex is the same, many people believe that men's sexual desire is higher than women's. However, research by Salan University in Germany from data from 600,000 individuals indicates that while this may appear to be the case, it is not always the case. There are many exceptions from both sexes, for example a third of women admit to having a higher sex drive than the average man. Therefore, it cannot be affirmed that men's desires are always higher than women's.
The concept of "real man" is also broader and more complex than just relying on sexual desire or the act of "breaking up girls" to evaluate a man's bravery. Many people can "break up with girls" not because they really want to show their masculinity, but because they are imposed by society. This has the potential to be harmful, because we do not know when acting according to animality and dignity will become anti-racist and lead to self-destruction.
Ultimately, treating alfa as an absolute norm is not just a fallacy of power but also of our social structure and our neurological makeup. Keep calm, and don't stress too much if you don't meet these vague standards. The alfa theory should only be considered an aspect in self-help books, not an absolute truth, and should not be used to measure a person's worth.
4. Benefits:
The male hierarchy, despite its seemingly beneficial benefits of defining roles and defining manhood, still has many flaws. First, it puts pressure on the standard of "perfect" men, pushing them into fierce competition to prove their bravery and express themselves. Second, the system fails to accommodate the diversity of men and their individual desires. It also creates misconceptions about sex, implying that men always need to show strength and animality. Ultimately, it creates an unhealthy environment that fuels comparison and self-inadequacy in many men.