1. Currently:

In today's youth language, "I love you" often just serves as a common expression, while true love is a profound emotional state when two people are immersed in love. Your friend's response can be understood as they still love each other, but no longer blindly as at the beginning. He truly thinks a lot about himself and his wife, about family and those around him. Everything has become a habit. But when they are together, he still feels something is missing, even though they rarely argue and there isn't much disagreement.

They are both together in harmony, but perhaps their love now is just a familiar feeling. They talk about love, but the actions are merely care, chatter, light kisses, and even sexual acts, which often are just habits or a sense of responsibility. For many families, despite numerous reasons that lead them to no longer love each other, they still cannot part ways. Perhaps they allow themselves to release unreasonable emotions by seeking reasonable justifications, such as caring for a sick person. It could be because they still love each other, or perhaps just due to the common reason in Vietnamese families: pressure from society, finances, or responsibilities towards children.

2. Actions:

One of the most deceptive actions that parents can take towards their children in this situation, especially with young people, is when individuals are unclear about what they want in a relationship. Often, they will choose what is familiar, familiar feelings, and avoid change, as long as the other person still cares and does not hurt them. This often happens more with women, when they feel that the relationship is merely a simple partnership. The most important thing is stability; when you are used to it, it easily becomes more important than everything else, especially if your partner is also a good person who appreciates you. When you realize that you are not truly "immersed" in love, you can still be satisfied with "affection" and stay for a long-term relationship, even being willing to marry just for "affection." Many people find it hard to leave a relationship because the other person is too good to them, and they do not want to hurt that person, especially when that person has done nothing wrong.

There may also be cases when you have once "immersed" in love with one or more people before, but it did not succeed, making you feel tired and wanting to seek a safer option. This is often considered one of the common pieces of advice for women today; they should choose someone who loves them rather than someone they love.

I went through my third love before meeting my wife. When I met my wife, I did not have reason; on the contrary, I tried to use my reason not to "immerse" in love. I do not understand why, after more than a year, I still cannot explain why I still feel "immersed" when I see my wife from the very first day. I was mentally prepared to accept any event, but then love did not fade; only "affection" remained. I taught my wife that way, and until now, she still feels "immersed" in love, while I want to be with her just for the feeling of true happiness. It is like in the movies; every day I wake up, I still feel a thrill with that girl in a truly fresh way.

3. Loving someone:

If you have ever loved someone before, the initial stage when you first get to know each other is often the feeling of "immersion" from the very first glance. You have an endless curiosity about them, wanting to know what they are doing, what they like, whether they have had lunch, and many other things.

What is their day like today? Is there anything special happening? I want to know everything about them. Even after knowing each other and being in love for a few months, having almost known everything about each other, the time spent together is never enough. You may not be able to explain why, just 5 minutes after parting, you already miss them, and it is also hard to understand why you want to know everything about them every second when you are apart. There are many other incomprehensible things that do not follow any specific formula, making it impossible for you to explain.

Why do you love them, and why do you love them so much? There are many reasons that make a person attractive and lovable. Handsome, beautiful, kind, talented, deep... But then you might meet someone more beautiful, more talented, more capable than the person you love, but why do you still "immerse" only with one person? For me, when you endure like that, it means you are still "immersed," still in love.

If "for relief" can happen in a moment, even after a few weeks of meeting, then "sila" is a broader and longer-term picture. Those who are serious about relationships often desire a long-term relationship, but very few think about how to maintain it. Even fewer think about what they want that relationship to be like.

There are relationships that start with "for love," but not between women and women, but between Philippe and the images they create of each other. It could be the image you create to make the other person "immerse," not the real Mai Linh, but the one you have created. Or it could be the image you imagine about them, an unreal ideal. Then, when in an official relationship, the two people finally see each other's true selves, disappointment arises, conflicts begin to appear, and cannot be resolved or are not resolved properly. That is when the true face of the created image begins to emerge.

And that is why I often advise my younger siblings to be themselves when dating. Do not hesitate to express disagreements, do not hesitate to expose your flaws. That is sincerity, and sincerity is the foundation of happiness. If both people are true to each other from the very first days of dating, then the outcome later, whatever it is, will be right.

Do not forget to observe how they handle the differences between you and them. You are two separate individuals; no matter how compatible you are, there will still be differences. You and they may even argue more than with others. If one of you always wants the other to change according to their wishes or always chooses conflict, then that relationship will not be healthy for both of you.

Truth and sincerity are just the foundation skills for resolving conflicts respectfully and constructively. That is one of the many skills that both must learn to maintain a solid relationship. So, do not think that loving enough will overcome everything. Love still needs the consideration of reason.

In the article about marriage, I emphasized the importance of reason in deciding to marry. But in fact, even from the beginning of dating and while you are immersed in love, whether you are male or female, you still need a lot of reason.

4. Love:

Think about the times you have had conflicts with the other person and you chose to fake or ignore those issues. Sometimes you just stay silent for a while and then call that person back. The other person may just need to say a few words of apology without thoroughly resolving the conflict.

How many times have you seen signs that the person no longer cares about you as before but still comfort yourself that they are busy or have many other issues? Even, you may see that person silent or unable to satisfy your needs, but you do not dare to express your feelings to them.

How many times have you seen that person act inappropriately and you kept silent just because you were afraid they would hate you? You noticed something was wrong with that person, but you still believed that everything would be reconciled because you loved each other.

Whether you are male or female, you still need reason in a relationship. And for the ladies, learn to keep your reason in love. Do not turn yourself into a puppet to meet inappropriate expectations. Know how to maintain your reason and learn to do so. Do not let yourself become a puppet of emotions and then complain about all men.

Love and In Love, two familiar concepts but bring two completely different experiences in love. Love, or tình yêu, is a deep and lasting emotional state, built on understanding, respect, and genuine concern for others. This is a long and stable journey, where each step is an investment and sacrifice for the relationship.

However, In Love is a captivating feeling, a state full of attraction and intensity, often stimulated by optimism and novelty. When In Love, people are drawn by the excitement, thrill, and joy of love, but often lack depth and stability.

There are cases where Love and In Love can become repulsive, when one or both parties do not share the same perspective on the level of the relationship. Love can become dull and boring if not cared for and nurtured, while In Love can fade quickly when the initial sparkle has dimmed.

In fact, there are cases where Love and In Love coexist, when one person in the relationship only feels In Love, while the other truly loves. This can lead to inconsistency and difficulties in maintaining the relationship.

In summary, although Love and In Love are both important factors in a relationship, it is essential to understand and consider the differences between them to build and maintain a long-lasting and happy relationship.