Back to my parents in the past three years, if you want to talk about your greatest growth, you know one thing, treat the people around you, and treat the most direct expression is the positive words and responses.

What kind of person will we become, to a large extent related to the family. When we have no awareness of ourselves, the interactive mode of loved ones in the family will have a profound impact on us, including thinking, language and behavior patterns.

Some time ago, I have seen Dong Yuhui's interview. He can become an influential personal brand from the countryside through the road of studying in the countryside, and he cannot do without the influence of his parents on his personality. Xiao Dong said that since he was a child, his father affirmed him everywhere, and felt that his baby was doing everything and everything was great. This was also the source of his confidence; his mother was silently giving love, but it was definitely not doting. When I was in college, I joked with my mother that after I wanted to make living expenses on my own, I did not give him any money at home in the second month. I just hope he eats well and sleep well.

When Dong Yuhui graduated from university, he applied for a car company and watch company, which was well -treated. One of them could also be stationed in Europe. He also applied for New Oriental. On the face of three choices, he ran home and asked his father's opinions. Essence It is said that his dad was working in the ground at the time. After hearing his son's question, he stopped the work in his hand and stabbed his hoe, saying that it affected Dong Yuhui for life: you sold very expensive watches and expensive cars to money to be rich. What is the use of people? Do a job that can create value. Xiao Dong asked what valuable job was. His father replied that people are the scale of all things, and affecting people's work is valuable work! At that moment, Xiao Dong felt that his father was like a behavior artist. People are the scale of all things, and Xiao Dong later learned that Dad looked from the book.

I think that people who understand the nature of life can have a positive impact on the world no matter what job they do. Xiao Dong’s parents are such people. In their most important job, parents, parents admirable.

Father is the leader of the family, the father's mind and pattern, and play a decisive role in the shape of the child's character. The mother is the atmosphere in the family. Essence

Although for most people, native families have become synonymous with "mental health killer", but it is undeniable that everyone is an independent individual and we cannot choose our own family parents, but we can choose to grow for our own growth. With a responsibility, no matter what age, gender, or even status, we must eventually face our own hearts and the ultimate trial -have I live my life? Have we left a regret?

Below I will combine the perspective of studying life counseling and psychology in the past few years, how to speak positive words and respond positively to talk about my views. I hope to inspire friends who are aware of the importance of people around me.

How to speak positive words?

The positive words are the words that people feel loved. This is based on our correct understanding of people. If this person is strong enough, then a goodwill reminder or the accusation based on understanding Discounted, so the main point is not to ignore the feelings of others, and at the same time don't think of criticizing and accusing others.

The discourse is energy. As the saying goes, good words are warmed in three winter, and the evil words hurt people in June. In a word, it may empower a person or destroy a person. Because discourse will affect the level of consciousness of people. If this sentence enters the subconscious layer, it can change a person's behavior mode. As a public figure, Xiao Dong's confidence in his words and deeds is also the confidence of his words and deeds. For the sake of empowerment.

In addition, how to talk about positive words in life to promote the development of interpersonal relationships, I think of "the four loves."

Three years ago on the video, listening to a limb to share her husband before the death of the middle age, she took her child to apologize, thank you, love, and say goodbye to her husband. After the death of her husband, it reduced regrets and faced a new life.

But can you, don't stay at the last moment of life, just think of the four love, don't sigh until the death of your loved ones, if I didn't do that year, I would be fine! Or I really want to tell TA I love TA very much. Even TA was so sad to treat me so much.

I wonder if it can be used in life and in all interpersonal communication to increase our feelings of love and experience how the energy of love brings us nourishment.

Apology: I know that I am wrong and apologize in time, even for strangers.

Thank you: The people around you gave him a small kind of good deeds and immediately thanked each other.

Tao Ai: I don't necessarily "love you" to love. For friends, I give suggestions, or gifts I sent. What is given specific aspects.

Farewell: In addition to saying "goodbye", we can see the other party's leave, and we are also creating the sacred moment of love. To use it, we will understand the wonder in it!

If the four loves can become a two -way communication of intimate relationships, how beautiful it is! One of our nation's characteristics is that they are not good at expressing their feelings. Not only are they saying love, it is even more difficult to say that I am wrong. For this reason, how much emotional waste has accumulated in my heart. Gradually, we have related to the heart and feelings that make ourselves unpleasant. What we show is that the personnel and things around us are gone, and they will be more and more modest. And intimate relationships should have become the nourishment of each other!

How to respond positively?

The most basic response is that the most basic thing is that they have responded to others, and their body language or language is included.

When communicating with parents, especially when they communicate, they often look around and don't look at me. Over time, as far as I observe, when I talk about going to play, they have different performances when they feel that they feel important, and they will look at me very focused. So now I have a cheeky demand, saying that when I think it is important, I will remind them to look at me!

In addition, the words and deeds of the people around you must express your feelings instead of emotional response with a peaceful attitude.

For example, when you are offended by your loved ones, you can say in a peaceful attitude, "You do n’t feel respected, very angry," instead of roaring "Why do you treat me like this" to the other party. What you say than when he growls will let the other party listen to it, because although the sound is loud when the roar, the other party hears and see emotions, which will cause a confrontation or escape stress reaction, which is especially applicable to children.

In addition, we can not only express our feelings about those negative treatments. When the other party expresses goodwill, we can also feedback our feelings. This is to create a channel for expressing love to let the other party know how to treat us well. Let the other party know that they can express themselves.

In addition, the most important thing to treat others is goodwill. When I first returned to Wuhan, a sister I had just met invited me to dinner. She talked about the waiter in the restaurant and left a deep impression on my attitude. I seemed to be dissatisfied with the waiter because of the inadequate service, but the attitude of my sister's latter made me realize my irritability and uncomfortable to the waiter.

When we practice positive words and responses as our criteria for our words and deeds, we will gain more goodwill.