In that hot summer, I met and fell in love with Mr. Xie in 2019. Before marriage, he was enthusiastic, considerate, and gentle towards me. He would kindly help me tie my shoelaces when they came undone and would hand me a pair of sneakers when I was tired. I naively thought he would always treat me well, but I was just a love-struck person (as they say online). When he had time off, he would take me to various cities to relax. He would remind me to watch out for passing vehicles on the road. When I was unhappy, he would do things to cheer me up. He would remind me to hold his hand when crossing the street. After two years, he changed, and we had nothing to talk about. My parents said I should never marry someone I couldn't marry, but stubbornly, I insisted on marrying him. In May 2022, I decided to go to his hometown to the civil affairs bureau to obtain a marriage certificate. There was no sense of ceremony, and no relatives or friends to bless us! He looked unwilling when we registered our marriage, and I felt a thousand times more reluctant to marry him. After discovering I was pregnant, he only expressed disdain for me. After marriage, we would only exchange a word or two. My parents would get up early to prepare breakfast for him to take to work. I had no job, no income, and no financial means to support the child. They thought I could take care of the child while working to pay for rent, utilities, and food for my parents, etc. I couldn't rely on him alone; he felt stressed. I would occasionally say: if you feel stressed, then don’t marry and have children. There’s nothing wrong with not getting married. Both sides fantasized about a man and woman being gentle, family-oriented, considerate, caring, beautiful, and handsome, but he was daydreaming. However, divorce has a huge impact on the child. Now that I am divorced, I have regained my freedom. If I could choose marriage again, I would prefer not to marry. I will wait until the child grows up. I will also focus on my work and communicate with colleagues in the workplace.

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