I caught my partner in the bathroom for the second time, wearing pants. He wasn't acting strangely, nor was he a fetishist. He just needed a break - a break with me, to be more specific. I feel like he is hiding something, even though I believe he is loyal because of his kindness and strong moral values. This is also because he didn't even have his phone the second time.
However, I can't help but find this behavior strange. So, this is a strike for him. On his side, he has been worried about the time I spend on my phone. He is right - I do spend a lot of hours on it, mainly texting friends, reading psychology articles, and consuming some good content. I also use it to find local events in Toronto and watch interesting cat reels.
I have nothing to hide, but when he approaches, I quickly put down my phone (out of respect), which might look suspicious. So, this is a strike for me. I'm sure neither of us is engaging in any inappropriate or disloyal behavior... but I worry. When trust is not fully present, is it just a matter of time before one of us cheats?
I worry this is exactly what my 10th-grade economics class warned me about. A long time ago...