In this world, some people like quiet, some people like liveliness, some people like to think, while others like to create noise at every moment, even at the expense of others' feelings, which is a bit twisted.
The place I rent is an eight-story apartment in Haizhu District. In front of my house is a road, behind it is a corridor, and on the left and right are other rooms, but the noise often comes from the room above. Several people live in a single room; they hardly order takeout and always cook for themselves, making noise without restraint. Sometimes, even late at night, they suddenly create a lot of noise, as if something heavy has suddenly fallen, that kind of sound hitting the ground. I don't know what exactly is going on with them. I once mentioned this to the landlord, who inquired about it, but in the end, nothing came of it.
However, since then, the noise from the room above has intensified. I often warn them by shouting at the ceiling, but they seem to ignore it and instead hit the floor even harder. I became furious and went upstairs to confront them. When I knocked on the door without courtesy, it was a woman who opened it and asked what was going on. I told her not to make noise. She said it was probably because something fell on the ground, and she apologized. Seeing her so polite, I decided not to pursue the matter further. Later, they did quiet down for a few days, but after a few days, they returned to their old ways. I lost my patience for continuous communication, so I just yelled at them from the window, and they didn't dare to retort, probably because they knew they were in the wrong.
As we all know, people who like to read generally prefer quiet because they need to think and calculate. However, those who don't like to use their brains are always restless, either playing tricks or creating other disturbances, making the room noisy, and sometimes even pulling pranks. The residents upstairs have such personality traits. When I reported this to the landlord again, the landlord also ignored the matter, probably feeling helpless.
Therefore, when we rent a house, we must have a prediction about the noise in the house and understand the characteristics of the neighbors around us in advance, so we don't discover these problems only after signing the contract and moving in. However, sometimes, the people in other rooms may have moved in later, which is quite unfortunate. For example, when I first moved in, there was no noise from above, but later there was, which might be because the previous tenant left, and the new tenant is such a noisy person. I make this prediction because my neighbors on both sides have actually changed several times, so it's not surprising that the upstairs tenant has also changed. The rent for this house is not cheap, and it's not surprising that few people stay long-term; it's even less surprising for a family to live in a single room.
In Haizhu District, generally speaking, Haizhu East is relatively cheaper. Haizhu East is a later-developed area where many migrant workers gather, while Haizhu West basically belongs to the old city of Haizhu District, where there are relatively fewer migrant workers. However, the rent for the old city is relatively higher. For example, the rent for a single room in the old city of Haizhu might be enough to rent a better one-bedroom apartment in Haizhu East. Nowadays, the subway transportation is very convenient, so living in Haizhu East is also fine, but after marriage, I had certain requirements, so I chose to live in the old city of Haizhu.
Perhaps it's a habit formed by old Haizhu people since childhood; even when they grow up, they rarely go to Haizhu East for leisure. Deep down, they have a profound memory of Haizhu East as a suburb. In the past, many people preferred to live in the old, dilapidated houses of the old city of Haizhu rather than move to the suburban Haizhu East. At that time, Zhujiang New Town in Tianhe District had not yet been established, and that place was the suburb of suburbs. There was once an aunt who couldn't marry into a good family and was forced to marry into Liede Village. In that family, she was considered to have married the worst, so her other siblings rarely communicated with her, let alone visit her. Everyone thought she married a poor man and was afraid of borrowing money from her, so they were unwilling to visit unless there was something significant.
What about now? Liede Village has undergone development and transformation, and the people of Liede Village have become the wealthiest villagers in Guangzhou. They can earn high dividends without working all year round, making many people from the old city envious. Indeed, fortunes change; now it's this aunt's turn to have good luck. However, she has not continued to maintain close ties with her relatives from back then because they did not help her when they were poor, and now that they are doing well, there is no need to keep in touch. I heard that this aunt spends her days playing mahjong and doesn't know how to run a business, so she entrusts her money to a professional manager, and she is getting richer and richer. Truly, comparing people can be infuriating.
So, ten years in the east and ten years in the west; never look down on those you think are not doing well now. One day, the heavens may give them a chance to turn things around, and they may become someone you look up to. Thus, my thoughts continue to elevate, and I realize that those who always gossip are also creating noise, aren't they? The creation of this noise not only affects relationships but also reflects a lack of self-cultivation, which may lead to an inability to bear better luck in the future.
It is not difficult for a person to do a good deed out of kindness for a moment; what is rare is to maintain a kind attitude and action over the long term, without being distorted by external interests.
Even though the upstairs is almost always making noise, I still vent my emotions freely. However, neither of us has taken further action, and it is impossible for it to escalate into harmful behavior against each other. In the future, I also cannot continue to live in this place; I might move out in a month or two, and they may not stay long either, possibly moving again due to certain circumstances. These are all possible scenarios.
We need to look at this matter with a developmental perspective. Our endurance or emotional venting to deal with the current situation does not mean we must continue to be treated this way. Any imbalance will eventually change; either I will actively change, or others will actively change. If it is not me or them changing, it will definitely be the external changes that significantly impact the future.
Life is not always smooth sailing; if it is, that is a very rare situation. At least for me, such a situation does not exist. Perhaps this is the necessary cultivation of life; escaping will not solve the problem. We must either learn to coexist with it or improve our living environment. In other words, we must either spend time and energy or spend money and invest. Once we recognize this essential truth, we should understand what we should do the most.
Of course, if the other party continues to go too far, it is entirely possible to communicate proactively. There is no need for constant tolerance because continuous tolerance will only encourage the other party to escalate their behavior. Taking the initiative can solve the problem. Of course, emotions still need to be vented; after all, the ones in the wrong are the people upstairs, not myself. Only when the conflict escalates to a certain extent can it attract the other party's attention.